I think there is a current dilemma in America that can be more devastating to our future generations than any other. The sensitizing of America. More importantly the over-sensitizing of our children. There is nothing wrong with wanting to “protect” our children from emotional stress and harm but that has created a sub-class of sue-happy Americans looking for the next lawsuit. We are now in a current state where hurt feelings are directly equal to serious physical harm. A nation that is so obsessed with each others feelings that nothing else seems to matter.
Schools seem to be less concerned with teaching kids to obtain their dreams and build character development, and are now more concerned with each others feelings. Bullies are now treated like criminals, which while fine to an extent creates the problem of kids not being taught to properly defend themselves. We should bring back the bully not exile him. There is a natural order in human nature that we are tinkering with a little too much. We are raising a frail and weak generation where one no longer has to face adversity or fear to overcome challenges. To build character and defeat challenges. Is there a sense of pride today? No. More like a sense of guilt and weakness.
Bullies are bullies and they will always be around, until the end of time. But they should be a tool for our kids not a weed to be rooted out permanently.
I personally think we should bring back the bully. I hated bullies when I was younger and all through my early years. They were horrible rotten people, but they taught us a lot about life and how to deal with our problems. I liked to think of myself as a respectful kid growing up. I may have done my share of devious things when my parents were not around but I always had respect for my elders and my peers. A few times that I did not I paid for it dearly.
I had to confront a bully once or twice. I can remember getting picked on and belittled terribly by some kids in and out of school and I told that jerk I planned on meeting him after school, because I was sick of it. Not really sure who won the fight but it didn’t really matter. I got a few shots in, some respect that I deserved and the kid never bothered me again.
The bottom line is that I figured out my own problems by confronting them myself and in return I learned a bit about myself. Win lose or draw it doesn’t really mater. Some kids may never have any problems through school. That’s great. But the ones that do need to face adversity straight on. The worst case scenario still is better than avoiding your problems!
Bullies suck, and Ill teach my kids to stamp them out…. they are both going to be big boys. But to eliminate the bully entirely is a mistake.
If it comes to the point where insults and rumors become criminal in nature, we instantly lose the desire to stand up for ones self. When a individual is “crushed” due to simple words, there is a problem. Its not that the kid is being “picked on” that should be the source problem. The problem is the failure in not only metal strength but a complete and total lack of standing up for ones self. This new world of protected feelings is only creating one thing. If my kid did not have the know-how to stick up for himself after a confrontation I wouldn’t want the bully to be completely held accountable. I would want to correct my son by trying again the next day at school. Once again these are life lessons we want to keep around, not eliminate.
Don’t get me wrong, its very important to keep in mind the emotional state of our youth and to take care of them accordingly. As parents we should know the limits and boundary’s our kids are facing and point them in the right direction. I would never suggest we subject our kids to anything they shouldn’t be able to handle. We all know our kids. My kids wont always have their parents around to protect them and they need to understand that before entering the real world. We are creating a new wave of kids that can NOT take care of themselves in anyway.
This is the future. Our future leaders, soldiers, businessmen. Are you scared? I sure am. We are sensitizing our nation. Our next move is to allow openly gay children in the Boyscouts. I am appalled with this level of sensitivity. As for being gay… being gay is one thing and there really is nothing wrong with it. There was a reason for the Don’t ask Don’t tell policy in the Military. That is simple… the Military does NOT need to be sensitized.The same thing goes for some other things in life, such as the Boyscouts. Real Men are a thing of the past. Metro sexual, emotional, lazy entitled children will be taking over soon and the only thing we can to about it is correct the generation that follows, because the generation coming up is a lost cause.
I was also spanked as a child. I also feel the very same way with forms of physical punishment and continuing it with my children to ensure old school family values. When I was a kid I literally got my butt whooped. My father had a brown belt he never wore and it was only for when I got out of line. I only got my butt paddled with it a handful of times and after a while all he had to do was make it “pop” and it was enough to keep me in line. I never recall any wounds other than wounds to my juvenile pride when bucking my fathers law failed. He never harmed me physically. I never feared my fathers punishment, I only had the fear of breaking his law and order. Does that make any sense? Kids need discipline, and they no longer get it. This liberal mindset is destroying our nation! I just don’t see my father spanking my butt as child abuse.I Never did. If you consider that child abuse… then you consider almost every parent that raised kids in the 30’s and 40’s child abusers, as that was the standard back then. Your grandparents were probably abusers with that logic.
Kids are horrible and lazy now a days and its because we are raising them differently. That’s about it. Some parents can raise their kids with medicine and counseling, and I hope it turns out well. I think its easier to create a Adam Lanza with Medicine and no-touch-no-ineraction-Counseling… personally. I believe in raising children with a combination of discipline, love and a healthy dose of old fashioned family values.
Not only are they in order to be weak and frail mentally but kids are also very very lazy. I don’t know where the work ethic has gone to but kids are horribly lazy. I’ve never really paid attention before. I like to use personal experiences in this one. I have lived I a very busy and populated suburb for over three years. The yards and Driveways are not that big mind you.
In three years not a single kid has ever knocked on my door and asked me if I wanted my lawn mowed or driveway shoveled. And there are kids everywhere. When I was between the ages of 12 and 14 my neighborhood would have been eyed as a gold mine ripe for the taking in the winter and summer. I never had less than a 100 bucks in my pocket when I was a young teen because of it… and back then that was a lot of money. In the spring I would go around picking up bottles and cans. Kids today are tomorrows future. And I do NOT see the work ethic I was raised with. I do not see respect, or anything else worth looking for in many of our young. It clearly is gone, the entitlement generation is really at hand. I know how I am going to raise my kids and I guess that’s all I really care about. An economic & societal collapse is looming, to think otherwise would be foolish.